The problem with Law of Attraction….

The problem with law of attraction…is that it is always working, especially when you bloody don’t want it to! 

know you ‘shouldn’t’ be thinking those thoughts; the type of repeating thoughts that keep you up at night; “I am such a loser… nothing ever works out for me…if only I have done this / that…”. A lot of people play these thoughts in loop unconsciously, while others know they need to change their thoughts to change their lives, but struggle to let go of these deep rooted beliefs. Either way, the result is the same; more and more experiences and events show up that further fortifies the belief.

So imagine you genuinely have a fear based belief that things are always going wrong for you and nothing works out for you, and your often get into situations that prove you right. You go for a job interview, which you are more than qualified for, but you don’t get it. At home, there is a simple leaking pipe but so many things go wrong, it ends up costing double the amount. In these situations, one of the phases you always use is ‘just my luck!’. What is happening at these points in time?

Your main belief is that something always goes wrong and their for you set your expectations at that level. Your asking the Universe that I expect things to go wrong; so Universe answers because Law of Attraction never makes an exception! Your dominant thought is that things are expected to go wrong and ‘voila’!, here you go, you have asked and it has been given.

Damn that Law Of Attraction!

Story 1: Hatred for Paypal

Ever since i started using Paypal, the online payment services, I had a mistrust for it; I always feel like they ask for too much information and they are difficult to use, and the various Paypal titled SPAM / phishing emails don’t help with my beliefs either. So I had not used Paypal for many many years and I have ignored any emails they had sent in regards to re-verifying my details.

Recently, i had to make an online purchase and my only option was Paypal. My expectation of Paypal being difficult was so strong, that my online transactions did not work, after several tries. So left the transaction and next day I received an email from Paypal, stating that to ensure that my Paypal service is working, I need to re-verify my details. So I logged in with my password and started typing in my details, including details like date of birth, place of birth etc. Something clicked to me and something didn’t feel quite right, so before submitting, I went back to the email and that it went it dawned on me that the email address was not a real Paypal email address! This was a Phishing email and I fell for it hook, line and sinker!

For someone who has been trained to spot make emails, as I also work in Financial Services and to fall for a basic scam was not an accident. I strong expectations were being met by LOA. I was given what i have been asking for! Paypal to be difficult, grab all my details as expected.

Thankfully i was able to delete all my details and close browser before submitting! Then shortly, I closed my Paypal account and let Paypal go lovingly!

NB: Stories that I share are from variety of sources including my own as well as others. I would love to hear from you on any stories that you want to share in regards to Law of Attraction! Happy Vibrations!


My journey through Science and Spirtuality 

“For those who believe, no words are necessary. For those who do not believe, no words are possible.”

When I initially started writing this blog, I wanted to explore if there is any relatable mainstream scientific basis for the Law of Attraction which is often described as Pseudoscience. My chain of thoughts was drawn to the field of Psychology, particularly field of Positive Psychology, which in my humble opinion, seems to have a lot of synergies with law of attraction. As I do more reading and research and started putting words together to collate my thoughts, I have realised my inner journey has taken me somewhere more than just exploring the merits of a pseudoscience , dare I say it, I have discovered Spirtuality in the process! 

Although I would describe myself as always been a bit Spiritual, I am more aware of a purposeful living in the last few months. More I read with an open mind, more the line between science and spirituality becomes more blurred. The word spirit, which comes from Latin which means “to breathe”, congers up very strong opinions in most people, from views of religious references to views of skepticism, and even images of ghosts in some cases, but for me I prefer to use the word consciousness. Consciousness is perhaps one of the hardest concept to describe, but it is the essence of our being, the “I” in all of us, the inner voice that we can’t put a finger on or dissect. 

In the recent days, I have come across the concept of “I AM” which is often used to discribe the God presence within us, our higher self. When we say “I am” ( I am healthy; I am wealthy; I am content etc) it sends out a stong message to the universe and I am concept becomes your reality. But it’s not just a matter of saying it, but feeling it and using your imagination to feel the state of health or weath or whatever that you desire. 

    Another realisation is that science and spirituality are not mutually exclusive. More and more there are examples in the field of medical science tackling spiritual ideas like meditiative states and their benefits as well field of quantum physics which throws out an array of questions which science alone would struggle to solve. In deed in the world of quantum particles, reality is stranger than fiction and a great example of this is the double slit experiment which shows that the mere act of observation changes the behaviour of particles at a quantum level. At the very least this shows that universe is not simple or straight forward as one would think. 

    My final thoughts come from a recent book I read by Dr Wayne W Dyer, Wishes Fulfilled, which talks about manifesting your dreams by tapping into your higher self and one of the most interesting concept I came across is the impact of conscious thinking and sub-conscious thinking in relation to manifesting your dreams. It’s generally accepted in the psychology community that subconscious is where real changes need to take place in order to have a permanent change in behaviour and this is also the accepted status quo in the spiritual community, where to make a lasting impact on your life and circumstances, subconscious need to be engaged. Dr Dyer talks about using the last 5 minutes before you go to bed to reaffirm your dreams and using your imagination to feel what it would feel like to obtain that dream as the last 5 minutes of your conscious thinking is likely to impact your sub-conscious processes while you are sleeping. 

    “The future belongs to those you believe in the beauty of their dreams” – Eleanor Roosevelt